However it is worth noting that it’s time we reframed our perceptions of love. Because let’s be honest love has been swanning around in a very dramatic cloak. Crazy in love, madly in love, desperately in love the language is, yes possibly influenced by Beyonce and Van Morrison but also, not an accurate representation of the healthy love we all desire to feel. Instead of striving for a love that has you falling and flailing into an experience somewhat out of your control what if we strive to rise in love instead?
What if, humour me here, you measured love by how uplifted you felt? How strong, radiant and aligned you felt with your own authenticity and not how needed, dependant and validated love made you feel?
It all starts with building a beautiful and solid relationship with yourself! And I don’t mean this in a wishy washy self love way. Who are you when you are full alignment with your own authenticity? What strengthens your vibration? What brings you joy? Ask yourself how do I desire to feel in love? Who do I want to be in love? And from this place you can use your answers as a barometer of whether you’re getting closer or further away from a love that lifts you up!
Jerry Macguire may be responsible for throwaway lines like “show me the money” and “you had me at hello” but it was perhaps the declaration of “you complete me” that convinced us that without a special someone we are incomplete. Again, another perception around love that we need to shift, if only slightly… I’m not sure anyone is ever complete, we are ever evolving beings after all, and if we walk around thinking we are void of certain puzzle pieces until we merge with another then we’re missing out on an incredible opportunity to truly satisfy ourselves.
What if instead you found someone to complement you rather than complete you; the yin to your yang.
Love is subjective. But love in its purest form isn’t a swinging pendulum of highs and lows. Although we should allow it wriggle room, love, at its core, doesn’t wax and wane, rise and fall or turn from hot to cold. Love is not dependent on external factors, it’s not defined by physical attraction, possession, banter or intellect, and its opposite is not hate. It is a pure essence that resides in each of us and when accessed in its most unadulterated form it has the ability to set you free. Free from the expectations of love placed on you by society, free from the wounds we carry from past relationships and free from the narratives crafted in a Hollywood writers room.
The pure essence of love is a feeling, a recognition and an innate part of who you are and it is something that feels strengthened when you find a love to complement your own.
The secret to finding a love that lifts you up comes down to strengthening your own essence of love and creating a vibrationally charged frequency that is in full alignment with your own authenticity. From this place you’re able to attract not only a love to complement your own but one that requires nothing more than for you to be yourself.
So do more of the things that light you up, that bring you joy, that enable you to be comfortable bathing in your own brilliance, when you can do this things (and people) with a similar and aligned frequency to yours will be naturally drawn directly to you. So simple!
The thing with vibrational energy is it doesn’t always adhere to the same timelines that we do, which means it requires a certain level of faith and patience. Trusting in the timing of your life is all part of the manifestation process, especially when it comes to love. Can you sit in the comfortable silence not waiting but living each day in alignment with yourself knowing that just as the sun rises and the moon sets, you too are moving through a vibrational cycle and soon enough, according to universal law, your frequency will be complemented by another.
Written by Jordana Levin